Important things to consider before entering psychotherapy
Psychological therapy is a process, which in order to be successful requires commitment of both the client and the therapist. How committed the client is to get better and to be open to his own truth and change is one of the most important determinants of their success.
Opening our eyes (and hearts) to the experiences which we usually avoid is challenging – even when we know that it’s in our best interests. Consider whether you are ready for the changes, but keep in mind the reasons you first considered going into therapy.
I also encourage you to think about practical aspect of therapy. As with anything else, achieving quality long-lasting changes might require considerable amount of time, your efforts, and money. I am committed to provide an affordable treatment to my clients and try to keep my prices as low as it is possible, but nevertheless in some cases therapy can be an expensive adventure. Below you can find more information on how much I charge and Medicare rebates you might be eligible for.
If you do decide that you want to give it a go – I am happy to provide you with free initial 15 min consultation over the phone or Skype to help you to consider whether I am the right therapist for you.
Here are some questions I am frequently asked:
How does psychological therapy work?
Psychotherapy is a collaborative work between the client and the psychologist the main goal of which is help the client to get on top of their difficulties. Life is not perfect and no one is perfect. We all learn the ways to survive in and adapt to the reality, which do not always serve our best interests and cause more suffering than bring benefits. It takes courage to see the mistakes we make being driven by our fears, and it helps to have a compassionate professional by your side when getting on top of internal problems.
Therapy focuses on empowering the clients with a new knowledge about what works best for them and helping them to build up their capacity to face previously avoided challenges. It provides support to accept the reality for what it is, to see the bigger picture, and to take responsibility for what really requires client’s care and attention, which ultimately results in some relief from or full alleviation of suffering, and having more freedom, control, and better choices in the clients live.
How quickly the change will happen?
How quickly the change will be happen depends on several things. These include: client’s current circumstances; client’s motivation to improve; how significant/big the problem is; for how long the problem has been present; and the extend to which the problem impacted client’s life.
In some circumstances my clients achieved the desired results in just 1 to 3 sessions, in other circumstances clients preferred to engage in long term work in order to address more deep and serious issues.
Do I need a long- or a short- term therapy?
If you come with a clearly defined problem, have realistic expectations and are psychologically minded – it is likely that you will be able to achieve a change in a relatively short period of time. However if your problem is more extensive and is not very clear – it might take longer. However, long-term therapy does not mean that the client just comes to talk. The session is always a step towards the desired goal, which involves hard work on behalf on the client and myself, and commitment to what is in best interests of the client. It’s just in some cases the path that needs to be walked in therapy is not very long, and sometimes it is longer.
I encourage my client to consider seriously what they can afford to spend and what they get from therapy. Sometimes investing in therapy serves in best interests of the client and sometimes they benefit more from solving practical problems in their life, if they are tight with time and money. In some cases responsible behaviour and wise management of the current problems in life can be as healing as psychological therapy.
Do I feel better straight away?
Generally yes, but it depends. In some cases people can feel better after only one session, but this is very rare. In most cases in people experience some additional discomfort before they get significantly better. This happens because some of the mechanisms responsible for development and maintenance of the psychological problem – from previously hidden – become more apparent and re-evaluated in therapy.
Please note that the process of therapy can sometimes involve working through confronting material and even though I do my best to avoid unnecessary confrontation and unnecessary pain, there is no short cut to facing the reality of being hurt. However, if my client does not feel good after the work we did in session – I really want to know it.
Do I have do consent to video recording of my sessions? Why do you want to video record my sessions?
No, you do not have to give your permission to video-recording of the sessions, and it will not have any impact on how much effort I will put into helping you. However, I would like to ask you to consider the following reasons for why I video-record the sessions. First of all, the sessions can be quite intense with a lot very important information being exchanged in every moment of the session, and it sometimes helps to go back and review some moments. Even though I try to take good session notes, they can’t be as comprehensive as the video. It might also provide me with an opportunity to get unbiased quality feedback from an independent international expert in the field (only with your permission, of course), and that will ensure that you get the best possible service I can offer to you. Please be aware that you will also have an opportunity to withdraw your consent for video-recording at any time.